Abandonment:
Physical abandonmentis being left alone; left behind or deserted (this is the
type of abandonment that we most often see in childhood).Emotional abandonmentis being
given up on; withdrew from; emotionally deserted or separated from; a feeling of being “left
behind” in a non-physical form.
Anger:
A
strong displeasure and belligerence aroused by a real or supposed wrong; wrath. Anger is often
used as a cover-up or form of denial for emotions of hurt or fear.
Anxiety:
A
generalized feeling of uneasiness and foreboding; a fear of the unknown; fear without a subject
(e.g. she feels anxious and fearful all the time for no apparent reason).
Betrayal:
Betrayed is to have your trust broken, to be deserted or hurt by a trusted
one.Betrayal of anotheris to be unfaithful in guarding or fulfilling a trust; to be
disloyal or violate a confidence, to desert someone who trusts you. Betrayal of the
selfis to break integrity; act against one’s morals, to abuse the body or soul.
Bitterness:
A harsh, disagreeable or cynical attitude. Being angry or resentful because of hurtful or
unfair experiences.
Blaming:
Being Blamedis to be held responsible; accused; or held guilty for
something.Blaming anotheris to hold responsible; accuse; find fault with. Putting
responsibility on someone or something else to avoid taking responsibility. This is a key
emotion in creating a victim mentality and can cause a deterioration of personal
power.Blaming the selfis finding fault with oneself, which can lead to feelings of
self-abuse, depression, etc.
Conflict:
Internal Conflictis a mental and emotional struggle within the self, arising
from opposing demands or impulses. (e.g. He was feeling conflicted about whether or not to take
the new job)External Conflictis to fight; to disagree or be disagreeable; to struggle
or battle against; to antagonize. Prolonged strife or struggle. (e.g. She and her ex-husband
experience continual conflict about custody of their children).
Confusion:
A
disoriented feeling; foggy thinking; chaos; lack of distinctness or clearness; perplexity;
bewilderment; a disturbed mental state.
Creative
Insecurity: Feeling
unsafe or untrusting the self about the creation or development of anything- relationships,
family, health, money, career and/or artistic endeavors. A feeling of insecurity that arises
and blocks the creative process. (e.g. writer’s block).
Crying:
The
(often) involuntary act of expressing a strong emotion; a response to pain or suffering
(emotional or physical). A response to or expression of helplessness. A physical sensation felt
in the throat, chest and/or diaphragm. Often becomes trapped when one does not allow
him/herself to cry (i.e. suppressing this reaction or stuffing it down).
Defensiveness:
A
state of resisting attack or protecting oneself; being sensitive to the threat of criticism or
injury to one's ego; being on guard against real or imagined threats to one's person, physical
and/or emotional.
Depression:
A
state of being sad, gloomy, low in spirits, dejected. Often a secondary emotion caused by
“anger turned inward” at the self and feelings of shame and guilt, etc.
Despair:
A
complete loss of hope; misery; difficult or unable to be helped or comforted.
Discouragement:
Feeling
a lack of courage, hope or confidence; disheartened, dispirited. Losing the nerve to try or
attempt something.
Disgust:
A
feeling of loathing; when good taste or moral sense is offended; a strong aversion. (e.g. She
felt disgusted when the killer was acquitted).
Dread:
Fear
of something that is about to happen; apprehension as to something in the future, usually real
but sometimes unknown. (e.g. He dreaded going to the high school reunion and facing the bullies
who had tormented him).
Effort
Unreceived: When
one's work, achievement, attempts or endeavors are not accepted or recognized; when one's best
effort is not considered good enough; a feeling of being unappreciated. Not feeling approved of
or validated.
Failure:
When
one falls short of success or achievement in something expected, attempted, or desired; (e.g.
The failure of a marriage or other relationship, being fired, bankruptcy, performing poorly in
athletics, art, academics, etc.).
Fear:
A
strongly distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil or pain; the threat may be real
or imagined.
Forlorn:
Miserable;
sad and lonely by reason of abandonment, desolation or emptiness; hopeless;
forsaken.
Frustration:
Exasperation;
being stuck or unable to progress; feeling blocked from causing a change or achieving an
objective or goal.
Grief:
Intense
emotional suffering caused by loss, disaster, misfortune, etc.; an acute sorrow and deep
sadness. A universal reaction to bereavement. Also can be feeling harassed, vexed or
exasperated (e.g. if someone gives you grief).
Guilt:
The
feeling of having done wrong or committed an offense. Feeling responsible for the harmful
actions of another (e.g., abuse, parents' divorce, death, etc.) Often accompanied by feelings
of depression, shame and self-abuse.
Hatred:
To
loathe; despise; great dislike or aversion. Often comes as a result of “hurt love”. Often
hatred is of a situation rather than a person (e.g. hatred of another’s behavior, unjust
circumstances, etc.) Self-hatred creates destructive behaviors and illnesses.
Heartache:
Anguish
and pain of the heart; distress usually as a result of difficulty or sadness in a relationship.
Felt as a crushing or burning physical sensation in the chest.
Helplessness:
Being
unable to help oneself; being without the aid or protection of another. Having little strength
or personal power. A common emotion for those suffering from a “victim mentality”. Feeling
unable to change one’s circumstances or state.
Hopelessness:
Devoid
of hope; having no expectation of good; having no remedy or cure; no prospect of change or
improvement.
Horror:
A
strong emotion of alarm, disgust, or outrage caused by something frightful or shocking (e.g. an
event of extreme violence, cruelty, or macabre.)
Humiliation:
A
painful loss of pride, dignity or self-respect; to feel mortified; embarrassed.
Indecisiveness:
An
inability to make a decision; wavering back and forth between one choice or another. Stems from
distrust of the self or doubting the ability to make a good decision.
Insecurity:
A
lack of confidence; self-conscious; shy. Feeling unsafe from danger or ridicule.
Jealousy:
Resentful
and envious of someone's success, achievements, or advantages. Having suspicious fears; fears
of rivalry or unfaithfulness. Results from a fear of not being loved and/or from
insecurity.
Lack
of Control: Lacking
restraint or direction; unable to regulate or command; a feeling that someone or something else
determines your course.
Longing:
To
have a strong desire or craving; a yearning or pining; aching for; to miss someone or
something; to want something you do not have (e.g. She longed for a different life).
Lost:
Unable
to see the correct or acceptable course; having no direction. Physically lostmost
often shows up from childhood- (e.g. being lost in the woods and can’t find the way home,
etc.)Emotionally lostrefers to a feeling of being unable to see what the right
decision or direction, being unable to find emotional stability (e.g. He felt lost after his
wife died; She hasn’t done anything with her life, she seems really lost.)
Love
Unreceived: A
feeling that love expressed is or has been rejected. Feeling unwanted, not cared for; not
accepted; a lack of love where it is desired.
Low
Self-Esteem: A
low appraisal of one’s own worth or value; feeling and focusing on one’s flaws; holding a
feeling of disrespect for the self; not confident; lack of self-love.
Lust:
Intense
sexual desire or appetite; an overwhelming want or craving (e.g., lust for power); passion; to
covet.
Nervousness:
Unnaturally
or acutely uneasy or apprehensive; fearful; timid; to feel jumpy or on edge.
Overjoy:
Intense
delight or elation which is too overpowering for the body; joy that it is a shock to the
system. This one emotion will appear for any and all
positive emotions that have become trapped.
Overwhelm:
To
be overpowered in mind or emotion; extreme stress; feeling overpowered with superior force;
feeling excessively burdened.
Panic:
A
sudden, overwhelming fear that produces hysterical behavior, unreasonably fearful thoughts or
physical symptoms such as trembling and hyperventilation; a strong feeling of impending
doom.
Peeved:
Irritated; annoyed; exasperated; irked; aggravated; ticked off.
Pride:
An
overly high esteeming of oneself for some real or imagined merit or superiority; vanity (an
excessive desire to be noticed, praised, or approved); feeling better than others; haughty;
non-teachable; has to be right; expects more credit than earned; or treats others with disdain
or contempt. Having a healthy amount of pride (self-respect or self-esteem) is a good thing,
and this type of pride usually doesn’t show up as a trapped emotion (although it may show up if
one’s healthy pride is injured).
Rejection:
Feeling
denied, refused or rebuffed; discarded as useless or unimportant; cast out; unwanted;
forsaken.
Resentment:
A
feeling of displeasure or indignation at someone or something regarded as the cause of injury
or insult; bitter for having been treated unfairly; unwilling to forgive. Often this emotion
comes along with animosity (ill-will that displays itself in action, strong hostility or
antagonism).
Sadness:
Unhappy;
sorrowful; mournful; affected by grief.
Self-Abuse:
Abusing the self emotionallyincludes negative self-talk (e.g. “I’m such an
idiot.”), blaming the self, etc.Abusing the self physicallyincludes mistreating the
body by use of addictive substances; to not care for the body by lack of sleep, proper diet or
nutrition; to work beyond what one can or should endure; to punish or tax oneself excessively.
This abuse may help atone for "sins", real or imagined, and usually is driven by anger.
Illnesses can be forms of self-abuse (e.g., "I don't deserve to be healed.")
Shame:
A
feeling of being wrong, defective or disreputable. The painful feeling of having done or
experienced something dishonorable, improper or foolish; disgrace; humiliation; a cause for
regret. The lowest vibration of all the emotions. Leads to guilt, depression and even
suicide.
Shock:
A
sudden or violent disturbance of the emotions or sensibilities; extreme surprise; to feel
traumatized or stunned.
Sorrow:
A
sad regret; distress caused by loss, disappointment or grief; to feel or express grief,
unhappiness, or sadness.
Stubbornness:
Being
difficult; unbendable; unable or unwilling to forgive; obstinate; headstrong;
resistant.
Taken
for Granted:Feels
treated with careless indifference; not given thanks or for something accomplished, similar to
ignored.
Terror:
Intense,
sharp, overmastering fear; extreme fright; alarm.
Unsupported:
A
lack of support, help or encouragement; not provided for by another; not defended when help is
needed; feeling the burden is too heavy to bear alone, etc.
Unworthy:
Not
good enough; beneath the dignity of; not commendable or credible; undeserving; not valuable or
suitable; unbecoming.
Vulnerability:
Feeling
susceptible to harm, either emotional or physical; unsafe; unstable.
Wishy
Washy: Weak,
spiritless; undecided irresolute; without strength of character. To lack conviction; without a
backbone.
Worry:
Dwelling
on difficulty or troubles; unease or anxiety about a situation or a person; extreme concern
over potential problems; concern about a loved one in possible distress.
Worthless:
Of
no importance or value; without excellence of character, quality or esteem; serving no
purpose.
